Richard Jasper: Facts in Brief

Who he?

Me, Richard. Rich if you're in a hurry, but never, never Dick. RPJ if I'm sending you e-mail; Arpeejay if you happen to catch me in a chatroom. And once, long ago, Ricky Paul. Legally, Richard Paul Jasper, although I usually sign my name Richard P. Jasper.

One of three sons of Paul William Jasper (1932-1989) and Mary Eulyne Mann (now Mary Roark). Pleased to be the life partner of Naoyuki Saito, a radiation oncologist. Widowedsurvivor of Jeremy Corry. Former husband of Janet Baylis Jasper and father of our children, David Ellicott Jasper and Emily Baylis Jasper. Worshipful and obedient servant of Saki, our purebred Shiba Inu.

Descriptors

First and foremost a gaydad. Check out my Coming Out Guide for Gaydads to learn more.

Likewise, a librarian, a former newspaper reporter, a would-be bodybuilder, a nominal Presbyterian, a self-selected radical faerie.

In the parlance of gay men, a musclebear. Medium height (5'10 1/2" tall), big build (about 205 lbs. these days), well-proportioned, furry. Medium-length brown hair with more flecks of red than silver. A short brownish goatee with as many flecks of gray as red. Eyes that these days are more olive green than the Bambi brown of my childhood and youth. Dimples, wrinkles, freckles but not much in the way of moles. Just about completely melanin deficient.

Chronology

April 11, 1958 -- My debut in Tallahassee, Fla. Later that year my parents move to Pensacola, Fla., where I spend the first 20+ years of my life.

1976 -- Diploma, Pensacola's Booker T. Washington High School.

1977 -- Associate of Arts, Pensacola Junior College.

December 1981 -- Bachelor of Arts in history, University of West Florida.

August 21, 1982 -- Janet Baylis and I are married at Pensacola's First Presbyterian Church.

1985 -- I receive the Master of Librarianship degree from Emory University and join the staff at the University of Michigan Library in Ann Arbor.

April 9, 1987 -- David Ellicott Jasper is born at the University of Michigan Women's Hospital in Ann Arbor.

March 1989 -- I return to Emory to join the staff of the General Libraries.

June 19, 1989 -- Emily Baylis Jasper is born at West Paces Ferry Hospital (now West Paces Medical Center) in Atlanta.

July 7, 1993 -- I come out to Janet.

Labor Day wekeend, 1993 -- Janet and I separate.

June-July 1994 -- Jeremy and I begin "seeing" each other.

August 11, 1994 -- Jeremy and I decide we're a couple.

November 1996 -- Janet and I complete divorce proceedings; the judge congratulates us on our "civility."

June 1999 -- Jeremy and I leave Atlanta for Houston; Jeremy joins the staff at the University of Texas at Houston Medical School, I begin my new job with the Houston Academy of Medicine-Texas Medical Center Library.

July 2001 -- Jeremy suffers a massive cerebral hemorrhage while the two of us are briefly visiting friends at an Independence Day pool party. He dies two days later, never having regained consciousness. Over the next two weeks his loved ones celebrate his life in three different memorial services, in three different states, in three different time zones.

May 2002 -- The evil Alton Pierre Marquis, II (or Ailton Pereira Marques, who knows what his real name is?) enters my life

February 2003 -- New job, new place to live in SE Michigan

March 2003 -- Meet Naoyuki and start dating (we consider March 1 our "anniversary")

January 2004 -- "Officially" move in with Naoyuki at his place in Ann Arbor

March 2004 -- Naoyuki and I take our first cruise together, one of a long list of travel adventures.

August 2004 -- I learn that I have Type 2 Diabetes Mellitus.

October / November 2004 -- I resign my position as Director of Resource Services for the Wayne State University Library System and, a month later, begin a part-time position at the University of Michigan Library in Ann Arbor.

Summer 2005 -- Naoyuki accepts a position at Roswell Park Cancer Institute, the oldest cancer hospital in the U.S., and we move to East Amherst, a suburb of Buffalo, New York.

September 2006 -- I begin my new job as a part-time reference librarian at Genesee Community Collge in Batavia, New York, about 40 miles from our home in East Amherst.

March 2007 -- I hire a personal trainer (I call him Bally Boy Josh) in anticipation of my 50th birthday, coming up in April 2008.

August-September 2007

Move webpages from Domani.net to new site, RPJasper.org.

Places

Tallahassee, Fla., April-November 1958

Pensacola, Fla., 1958-1978

Nashville, Tenn., 1978-1980 (attended Vanderbilt University)

Pensacola, Fla., 1980-1982

Monroe, La., 1982-1984 (worked for the News-Star-World)

Stone Mountain, Ga., 1984-1985

Ann Arbor, Mich., 1985-1989

Decatur & Atlanta, Ga., 1989-1999

Houston, Texas, 1999-2003

Detroit / Ann Arbor, Michigan, 2003-2005

East Amherst, New York (a suburb of Buffalo), 2005+

Why do I write this stuff?

It's my story, one that started the day I was born and won't be over 'til the day I die. If I don't write it, who will? To learn what's on my mind and in my heart, take a look at RPJournal, my online diary.

Contact Information

To reach me, send e-mail. My address is: richard@rpjasper.org